Resolutions seem to have been a hot topic this year, and I get why. On the one hand, I think it’s important to set goals for yourself. On the other, it often seems that resolutions become a vehicle for people to try and change who they are, which undoubtedly sets us up to fail. But for me, there’s something about writing down a goal that makes it more real and holds me accountable. I did it for the first time last year and I still can’t believe I accomplished some of those things. I also try to balance big goals with smaller sustainable life changes, and to really think through what I want to accomplish in the next year and what resolutions will help me get there. I also love the idea of the one-word resolution, and I’ve tried to filter all of my goals for the year through my word. This year, I’m resolving to:
1. Put my phone down 30 minutes before bed. This was one I didn’t sustain last year, but sleep is really important to me and I know this habit is hindering it.
2. Plan blog content in advance. I don’t know if it shows or not but I’ll be honest, most of the time I’m just flying by the seat of my pants here. I love writing and sharing my life with you all, so I want to be more thoughtful about when and what I share so I can continue to connect with you all.
3. Enjoy time with my family more. I often get so caught up in how I think things should be that I forget to enjoy what is, and it keeps me from soaking up moments that I know I’ll wish later I had appreciated more. I’m trying to really change that, starting with truly enjoying the time I spend with my family. We don’t get those moments back.
4. Run my second half marathon (and complete it faster than my first). I realized that one of the things I loved about training last time around is that what’s most important isn’t that you complete every single run perfectly, but that you consistently complete them. For me, it helps reinforce the idea that done is better than perfect. Plus, I enjoy running and I love having a goal to work toward.
5. Follow the one-minute rule. The one-minute rule says that if something will take you under a minute, you don’t put it off. For example, answering an email, putting away your coat, folding that blanket when you get up from the couch, etc. I love it because action creates more action, so doing the small stuff leads to knocking out the big stuff too.
6. Become more accepting of my body. Easy right? I plan to do an entire post about my own struggle with body image, but for now I’ll just say that this is something I’ve been working on for a while, and I want to put a little extra focus on it in 2020.
I think the key to keeping resolutions is they don’t have to be all-or-nothing. Whatever your goals are, you can slip up. You can make exceptions. You can fall off the horse time and time again. What’s important is that when you do, you don’t give up just because you weren’t perfect.
Which brings me to my word for 2020 — imperfect. I am so tired of feeling inadequate because I’ve fallen short of my own perfectionist visions. It has robbed me of so much joy and happiness, and no one can change that but me (and I’ll be damned if I let it ruin my own wedding). So this year, I’m vowing to embrace flaws and imperfections in all aspects of my life. Wish me luck.